For Loved Ones

Where To Start

We have hope that things can get better for your loved one.

And you must too - or you wouldn't have read this far, searching for answers. Sometimes the answers aren’t easy, but Arbor Place is here to help.


I think there is a problem, how do I know?

Alcohol and drug addiction is more than just a bad habit . Substance use disorders are diagnosable diseases that often times require lifetime management, similar to chronic diseases like diabetes or high blood pressure. People experience physical, emotional, and social symptoms. You may find your loved one doing things they wouldn’t usually do, like lying, missing work, losing control, irrational thinking, and continued use despite negative consequences of use. It is important to know that they don’t need to “lose it all” or “hit rock bottom” before they get help.

Mental health concerns are also treatable. There are many mental health disorders that your loved one may be struggling with - along with addiction or with no alcohol or drug use issues. Some common mental health disorders are depression, anxiety, bi-polar, and post traumatic stress disorder. Sometimes we may not know exactly is wrong, but that something just isn’t right about the way your loved one acts or feels. On this page are some links to common mental health disorders for more information.



What do I do?

Reach out for help. Things can get better for your loved one. Mental health and substance use disorders can be properly diagnosed and treatment is effective. It may be daunting to talk to your loved one about what you see and reasons you are concerned. Arbor Place can help you to learn more about substance use and mental health disorders, and help you to decide what your first step is. We will always encourage you to engage in positive self care, along with thinking about care for your loved one.



Preparing for treatment - what can I expect?

So here you are. Your loved one has agreed to go to treatment. Everything will be great, right? It is okay to be optimistic, but be cautiously optimistic. Substance use and mental health disorders are not “fixed” overnight. There is no magic wand to make things instantly better. There are things you can do to help your loved one prepare for treatment, and there are also things you can do to ensure you are healthy to support their recovery.



During treatment, what happens for my loved one?

Your loved one’s treatment experience will depend on both the care and treatment services they receive, as well as the work they are willing to put into accomplishing treatment goals. It is important to recognize that during the time your loved one is in treatment, it may also be beneficial for you to also do some work. Sometimes this work is to learn how to best support their recovery and increase your knowledge about their substance use and/or mental health disorder.



Early Recovery

Early recovery is most commonly defined as the first 90 days of a person’s recovery journey. This is a difficult time your loved one as they face the world needing different and new coping skills. They may feel various emotions - some of which are uncomfortable. Often times, they will need to learn how to “feel” again. The hard work during this period is worth it. Keep encouraging them to going! And you also need to keep on your path of wellness. Families recover together because everyone has a role to play.



What happens if my loved one has a relapse?

Relapses can occur when managing a chronic disease. If a relapse occurs, it is important to reach out to your support system. Many times, it also means to encourage your loved one to re-engage in treatment to help bring them back to what was working when their mental health or substance use disorder was in remission.



Giving Back

Staying connected to others and supporting the recovery journey of others is important. There are many ways to give back. Choose which is right for you and make a difference in someone else’s life.


Get Support

Tired of arguments, and fighting with a loved one over drug and alcohol use? There is a better way.

Is a loved one struggling with substance use? Learn more about our CRAFT program, and how it can help you and your loved ones find health and healing.

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